May I have an Emo moment? [Archive]

Dark_Cloud

01-18-2006, 11:13 AM

(My apologies, but this will be another long ass paragraph post. :()

I'm usualy the kind of guy that keeps a level head in any situation. I mean, if shit hits that fan, I'm the guy you want on your side. One of my best features is that I keep a good calm under preasure. But I have fallen off the wagon.

The thing is, I met the girl of my dreams. The only catch is, I have always known her, but I have just recently realized that she is the girl for me. Everytime I see her, she makes me all clumsy and stupid. It's like I'm so nervous that I can't think strait. Yeah, I know its cliche and lame, but I just can't help it. Will you all allow me to have an Emo moment?

Seriously, I don't even want to try to describe her, because there are not enough letters in the alphabet to perform that task. Ever since I made this realization, I have not been able to stop thinking about her. In my entire life, there is only one moment I can classify as perfect. Well, she was there, and I'm pretty sure she was the reason why I enjoyed myself so much.

I'm not used to being like this, and it's freaking me out. I have always been able to hide behind my indefference, but this is different. I feel like a dumbass. I'm posting this here because I know that everything sounds different once you say it out loud.

And feel free to make fun of me and all that good shit. I feel like a retard already. :(

Thre are just too many reasons why we can't be together. I've almost given up hope. But everytime I'm with her...

Bryan

01-18-2006, 11:31 AM

I've got your back, Tim.

This is cliche, true. But lame? Of course not! Don't be ridiculous, man. And don't let any of these naysaying cynical fuckheads fool you when they say that they haven't encountered a similar situation.

Well -- at least, I'm sure that a lot of us have. Or them, rather.

I know how you feel, and I know it sucks. But I don't really know what to tell you. My somewhat, kind of, almost, sorta similar situation to this didn't work out very well.

I guess I could tell you not to make things weird. But, that's just difficult. I mean, it's a balancing act between not acting completely uninterested and not being overbearing. But I'm hardly qualified to really advise you on how you could make this work.

I mean, what I did didn't work for me, and I don't really know the uhh.. ummm.. shall we say, type of relationship you have? I assume she's a friend, but I'm wrong often.

How about we just go with me advising that you just be yourself? You should do what you feel is best for all involved.

Yes. That sounds good to me. Wise.

Very wise.

At any rate, good luck.

Dark_Cloud

01-18-2006, 11:49 AM

Si senor

Bryan

01-18-2006, 11:58 AM

Damn.. that's pretty shitty dude. It sucks being under so much more pressure in a situation that already is high pressure.

But you have to do what you have to do. Don't regret what you do, man. Because regretting what you did isn't nearly as bad as regretting what you never could bring yourself to do.

Luna

01-18-2006, 01:32 PM

mysterio's right. Just do what you think is right, and do what you feel the need to do.

You shouldn't regret something like this, unless you have hurt someone and/or yourself. It is worth a try. If you don't try something, you'll never get what you want. Of course, this isn't always the situation, I'm speaking in general. If you want to say what you want to say, don't be so soft and serious. :P
Spice things up a bit, be humorous, that way if things don't go your way, you still have open slots for maybe one more try.

Viper

01-18-2006, 03:17 PM

If you try and fail, you'll move on and maybe even try again later but if you never try at all, you will always feel like you failed anyway.

This is your shot. This is for you and her. Not your family. Would they stop falling in love with someone for you? This is your moment. Let that funny feeling be known. If your family doesn't understand you have a second family right here that does.

Life happens once.

What's is gonna be? You and her or you and your family?

Toss back a stiff one and go make soemthing happen.

Mathx

01-18-2006, 04:18 PM

pix please...an internet forum will support you if she's hot.

Negativity

01-18-2006, 05:12 PM

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v647/Kaliber1313/emoemoemoe.jpg

ScratchedAt

01-18-2006, 07:44 PM

Dude...Normally I'd try to make fun of you..but I truly do understand your situation. Not the whole.... you've known her forever but just now know you love her... but the confusion and weirdness.

I'm that kinda guy. The one you come to when there are problems and the world is about to get all f****d up.

Just ride it out. Go on instinct. Nothing can happen so bad that you lose her, and if you do... it truly was never meant to be.

But, i know from experience that you can't just trust what even your best friend would say about anything... so what anyone else says will be pointless until you experience all of it...

And whenever the result comes... you'll know.

Hang thru it bro, its gotta hit rock bottom before it can get better. Well...

Or... who knows...maybe you can make your move and she'll love it.

It wont kill you to try.

Keep me posted, k?

WolfmanNCSU

01-18-2006, 07:52 PM

Don't live with regrets bro. If things fail, they will suck and hurt for a while (no doubt about that). You'll even be burned out about it and wounds run deep.

However, if things go right, then its all gravy after that. The important thing to remember is, you always loose if you never play the game.

Stay Vertical

01-18-2006, 07:53 PM

You should stalk her for a while Tim.
Just to get some good pictures.

Harmony

01-18-2006, 08:09 PM

Don't waste anytime doing stupid things or playing mind games with her! If it's really that great, do something about it fast!!!!!! No time like the present...

Zac

01-18-2006, 09:29 PM

Just have a good cry

Gilly

01-18-2006, 10:35 PM

Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who don't, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said that it'd be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.

and if you love the girl
man light up a torch
blaze a trail to her front porch
kiss her till your lips are scorched
and the rain comes down on you

AKA If you ever need advice, look at a girl's AIM profile.
:)

Dark_Cloud

01-18-2006, 10:47 PM

Haha, I'm not really the crying type of guy. But something tells me you were just giving me a hard time. I can never tell with you, zac...

D3adcell

01-19-2006, 02:09 AM

So talk to her about it. If you don't she's going to be going out with another guy before you know it and you wont have a chance. Trust me I know from experience.

Damarus, get a fucking hair cut. Your hair looks nastier then lunch ladies hair.

The Dude

01-19-2006, 04:24 AM

I have been in that situation, and I say talk to her. Seize the moment. It will take a huge load off your mind if you try and fail then to wonder forever what could have been.

Sendok

01-19-2006, 06:58 AM

Tim, just ask.

I spent most of last year in all emo "oh what if she says no and laughs me off" Well I asked her and we started dating 3 months ago and its been the best 3 months of my life.

While sure my parents and her parents don't go way back, since she is an international student....I don't have that bit that you have...but honstly aslong as you totally respect her...all will be good.

Carlos

01-19-2006, 07:15 AM

You know, this thread is funny.

Remember ZVO? Remember that, DarkCloud?

You told me a lot of shit, you were like, coaching me, and trying to get me in line, like....you were bossin' me around? You were like, all tough on me, and now you're feeling the kind of thing I was feeling when I turned 21.

Remember that thread?

Dude. This thread...

....Irony, buddy, its irony. I respect the fact that you're feeling this way, because now you will be in MY shoes!

Now you will feel the power of falling in love with a girl, and crying, being passionate, being this, and that.

Everyone told me that confidence gets you everywhere, DarkCloud. And ever since I left my "ex" I've become more and more, and more confident, more around women...and now girls want me than ever before.

I'm not gonna flame you, or boss you around, but only to put a perspective in this. I know I'm not supposed to be back, but this thread gave me the fortitude to come back and post with my two cents.

Most of the advices I was gonna give you has been said in this thread, so I'm just gonna leave it at this.

goku2057

01-19-2006, 07:16 AM

I say; Masturbate a couple a times, take two shots of Bicardi 151, then go talk to her. Even if she doesn't feel the same way, it's better to just know. I hate that feeling you get when you anticipate somethiing for so long, then you don't have the balls to do it. Carpe Diem, dude. Seize the fish.

Carlos

01-19-2006, 07:19 AM

Dark_Cloud

01-19-2006, 08:22 AM

Zac

01-19-2006, 08:26 AM

dark cloud can't coach

Bryan

01-19-2006, 09:17 AM

And you can't use punctuation.

Carlos

01-19-2006, 09:24 AM

Is this who I think it is? Seriously, how the hell is this situation similar to yours...in any concievable way? Besides the fact that there is a female involved, there are no other similarities that I can think of.
The similarity, is that YOU were going like "dude, get over this girl" or something like that...Like YOU know how it feels. Now that you are in the position...You know how it feels.

That's not scratching the surface, buddy...The similarity was that I was acting all "emo" (whatever the fuck that is)..in that thread. Don't you remember?

And dude, I felt the same thing for HER. It felt right, it felt strong, it felt like I was in love, rather than just feeling sexual attraction. Hey, calm down, I'm not trying to start a fight with you, man.

And as for who this is...Fools. The profile speaks for itself.

Bryan

01-19-2006, 09:31 AM

Uhh...

This is going to get really ugly really fast. I would recommend ending all contact with this individual which we will continue to call by his name now for simplicity's sake. You know? There's no need for this shit.

Thunderbolt, you don't want any part of this. Trust me.

Jon

01-19-2006, 09:48 AM

Yay. I'm so fucking.........confused.

kaphwan

01-19-2006, 11:47 AM

I assume he was banned ages ago.

Apparently he registered a new name for spite.

This is all I can tell for certain.

And back on topic (fucking GD and it's randomness), I think you should make your move. There is a magical spot between subtle and obvious and you must be there to be successful.

Wow, I didn't realise other people went through this.

Stay Vertical

01-19-2006, 07:36 PM

It sucks that you think you're emo cause you like a girl and you didn't realise or somthing.
Thats not really emo at all.

Fats

01-19-2006, 07:42 PM

^Says the queen of Emo...

Moses

01-19-2006, 07:53 PM

I resent your opinions and wish that you did not have them, or at least had the decency not to share them.

Bombardier

01-19-2006, 09:04 PM

I almost had an emo moment a few days ago, when I found out this girl I was into didn't feel the same way about me; that she "would like to go out, but as friends."

Now she's avoiding me, so fuck that noise.

Bryan

01-20-2006, 10:17 AM

That's shitty, Hate. Are you going to live up to your forum alias?

Bombardier

01-20-2006, 09:04 PM

Nah. It turns out she thought I was mad at her. I told her I'm not, but she's still being weird. Rather immature on her part, methinks.

So, like I said, fuck that noise. I've got better things to do than play some retarded game with her.
She's cute, but not that cute.

That reminds me, I need to change my alias. I'm tired of it.

Tommy

01-20-2006, 09:32 PM

Pics?

If you really want to have an emo moment, go sit in the dark, cry about it and slit your wrists.

Harmony

01-20-2006, 09:49 PM

Write some poetry or songs about it, in the depressing sense of course!

That should help!

Bombardier

01-20-2006, 11:11 PM

I don't want to have an emo moment.

I'm not like that.

SydeX

01-20-2006, 11:26 PM

Not to be a bitch, but love is overrated...its like smokes...just cause the cool ppl are doing it you should do it too...

:queer:

Stay Vertical

01-21-2006, 12:41 AM

Are you saying only cool people smoke?
Did you just tell us to start smoking?

Moses

01-21-2006, 02:07 AM

What a little fuck.

SydeX

01-21-2006, 03:32 AM

What a little fuck.
Most people begin smoking during their teen years mainly because they see other people do it...its a proven fact.

And now...without further adeu...I give you the definitive Emo movie...

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3919458370689549000&q=Emo

Luna

01-21-2006, 04:40 AM

That's some good acting!

SydeX

01-21-2006, 08:34 AM

What a little fuck.

u hurt me.. :(

Jesus

01-21-2006, 08:44 AM

I hope he dies.

Dark_Cloud

01-21-2006, 11:48 AM

By the way, I have made it to peak emo status! I hate my life sometimes...

I'd cry if I wasn't conditioned since birth not to do such a fucking gay ass homosexual thing...

Jesus

01-21-2006, 12:25 PM

So I'm no the only one programmed like that....

kaphwan

01-22-2006, 01:41 PM

Yeah, there's the two of you.

SlackerWolf

01-24-2006, 05:23 AM

By the way, I have made it to peak emo status! I hate my life sometimes...

I'd cry if I wasn't conditioned since birth not to do such a fucking gay ass homosexual thing...

I'd sympathize except for the last comment. Just cry, you fucking panzy. Why the hell are you sitting here complaining on an internet forum (whining to relative strangers should also go under this "fucking gay ass homosexual" category of yours) when you could be DOING something about it?

It really isn't that hard, dude. Take it from someone who has had success in this kind of a situation before. Just go spend more time with her, gauge how she feels about you, and try to strengthen your relationship. If you play your cards right (drop subtle hints, have fun, be sentimental, share "deep" thoughts, be in close contact constantly) you'll get her. Do it!

The above is tough love from your new best friend :)

Dark_Cloud

01-24-2006, 06:41 AM

Haha, I can whine about my situation on the internet AND do something about it at the same time. I post like twice a day. It's not exactly sucking up all my free time.

But, I realize that you don't know me very well, so I'll cut you some slack. I've been on these forums for a few years so some of these people are more than just "relative strangers". I do value their opinions and appreciate any advice they can give me. That's the main reason why I made this thread. For the people who know me. And to basically just get this stuff off my chest. When you keep feelings like this bottled up, it makes them way worse.

But, I do appreciate the "tough love" approach. And I did say you guys could make fun of me, so it's all good.

SlackerWolf

01-24-2006, 08:13 AM

I just happened to read this thread and see like two or three others were you mentioned this subject, so I felt a good verbal bashing was in order. So yeah, I'm very vocal when it comes to pushing people to hook up with other people. I like to think of myself as Cupid armed with a harpoon gun.

Dorbin

01-24-2006, 08:14 AM

Hey man, shit's tough, totally, I understand. But you just have to suck it up (here is the tough love part) and do what you want to do...and clearly what you want to do is make your feelings known. Whether you do it subtly or bluntly (perhaps more subtly at first given the case and your history), just make sure she ends up knowing how you feel.

Why?

Because life is too short and too precious to live in regret, as others here have said, and to sit around one, ten, twenty years from now and think "I wonder if...". Will it be easy for you to make this move? No, and depending on the type of person you are, it might be really, really hard. But it will be worth it no matter what happens, because you'll feel better for taking a risk, taking a chance and just lettin' shit ride - and you won't have to worry about your life crashing down, trust me. It might work out perfectly and you'll be so amazingly happy, or you'll have a few down days perhaps, but if you believe in yourself no matter what happens you'll come through it on the other side ultimately like a champ. Remember, you might stumble, but no matter what, you will not fall. Also, just imagine how you'll feel afterward, after just doin the damn thing and makin your move and after the initial reaction you have to whatever the outcome will be. Being free and just choosing to follow your heart is an altogether liberating feeling, man, as you probably know.

You have your free will, you have the power to make something happen. Go out there and do it, and revel in your ability to do so all the while.

Dralor

01-24-2006, 08:21 AM

Believe me I went through this shit a short time ago and I definately fall on the really, really hard side of things but I feel better that I did it wherever it may lead. While mine was really straight forward if convoluted. Follow your heart for as Viper told me he almost never talked to his wife and see where that has led.

Viper

01-24-2006, 08:23 AM

Yep, I could have said nothing and who knows what that would have lead to but I made my stance, spoke my mind and have been married for 8 years now.

kaphwan

01-24-2006, 11:53 AM

I'd cry if I wasn't conditioned since birth not to do such a fucking gay ass homosexual thing...

I've seen far more straight people cry than gay/bi people.

Someone who isn't afraid to let out their emotions is stronger than someone who tries to hold it back, destroying themselves on the inside whilst trying to keep a tough exterior.

Dark_Cloud

01-24-2006, 01:05 PM

Meh, it's not like I think crying is the worst thing in the world, just don't think guys should make a habbit out of it. I mean, if someone dies (or if the seahwaks win the superbowl), I could understand crying. But sometimes a guy has just gotta buck up and be a man. Seriously, when shit hits the fan, people who can get their emotions in check and keep a clear head will be the ones everyone else looks to for leadership. s

kaphwan

01-24-2006, 01:31 PM

*misinterprets post*

Okay then. My bad.

Tsachi

01-25-2006, 09:30 AM

Aww, Dark Cloud's expiriencing his first love.

Try to kiss her when she's close to you and she's giving you those watery eyes. Takes a gamble. You don't want to keep someone you love as a friend anyway.

This is decent advice. Take it. My first love was with my "best friend". She tried to kiss me numerous times but I never accepted (I always thought I was imagining it). I then asked her out. Because she had asked me out months (I declined) before she was after revenge and stayed friends with me in order for me to ask her out. We fought. I wanted to get rid of her (rationality above emotionality). I stopped talking to her. She tried contacting me 6 times over the months and in the last she called herself a bitch and started apologising. I did not accept. She wanted me as a lover. I told her she'd regret it.

If I had known what I know now... That she loved me... I'd have gone for a kiss a long time ago. When I was walking her home, when her face was an inch away from mine when watching the Lion King together... Thing is, this was love. I had kissed and slept with girls before, but this was unknown territory to me. Because I was in love I couldn't kiss her. This was confusing and disturbing me.

Even if there is a 1 percent chance she likes you, go for a kiss. Don't ask her out. Love clouded my judgement in the hunt approach of this female. Kiss, touch, say loving words. Win her over. And don't fuck up. Take a chance.

But if this goes wrong... Who gives a shit? It took me a while (and a lot of sex) to get over this but I fell in love again. I'm in love at this moment with all I can love. Sure, I loved A as much as B and there is no way of loving more, but I'm more IN love with B. I found love again.

Trial and error, Dark Cloud. Go for it. If it works, hurrah. If it fails, wait it out. You'll encounter this again one day.

You will regret it a lot if you don't.