In need of advice..

[Kay B]

Recently iv not been feeling myself atall and it's easier to explain to people you dont know over people you do know, Iv had a really bad couple of months which iv preety much kept quiet about. My family has been weird recently my sister is back to being the little princess now she split with her bf and seems to be getting away with murder with my parents recently and anything i say about it in in the wrong all the time and it's really starting to get to me, i dont feel comfortable being around them anymore. Its as if things have changed and i dont spend much time with them anymore. It's silly thigns like my dad telling me no-one can use his laptop besides him and than me coming home seeing my sister using it to chat to her friends and look for insurance quotes where'as she could easily of used her own computer, or me asking for a lift into town him saying no and than her asking later than night and him taking her...now i know they sound like silly little things and perhaps im overeacting but little things are building up.

Secondly i really like a friend as more than a friend but iv heard she doesnt like friendships becoming anymore because it messes things up so im cautious about mentioning anything and to make matters worse my best mate who is VERY close to her keeps talking about getting with her and if that happends it'd kill me seeing them togeather because i really do like her. I get on great as a friend with her and really dont wanna risk messing things up id rather have something than nothing with her. I may just let things go and see what happends.

Thirdly, Work is driving me nuts im hardly sleeping or eating properly due to intensive working hours finishing late starting early ect but iv not got the option to not do this as to complete my course it has to be done...

Nowi dont know whether im overreacting and just letting everything get to me at once and iv not spoke to anyone because my friends have had there own problems so iv kept quiet, let it build up and monday night it exploded and i was just in a really shit mood and than ended the night with two broken/bruised and swollen knuckles cos of an argument with a friend. I got pushed and my hand was crushed between two things and is preety much purple atm iv tried speaking to my best mate but everythign reverts back to hsi problem

So...anyone have any idea's how i can deal with this? I know things will look up in the end its just whether i can wait for however long it may or may not take

[goku2057]

Hey, welcome to my life. I'm virtually in the same spot as you right now. Slightly different, but similar.

It sucks, doesn't it?

[ScratchedAt]

I'm not re-reading this.. so forgive me if I miss parts or forget something.

About the parents... it's the way it is. Most people our age don't always seem like we can talk to our parents because your at a point to where you're supposed to be growing up and moving out of that phase of having to talk to them all the time. Parents always seem to have one point in their life when they favor a certain sibling over another.. and I'm sure you've been favored over her before. My suggestion? Try to quit overreacting, even though you may have every right to.

With work. Intensive hours are something only you can control. You get the fun little choice of "switch jobs and get the hours you need despite any setbacks it may give you" , "ask to get more solid hours and either get what you need and be happy or upset the wrong person and have to switch jobs anyway" or you have the fun choice of "Stick with it and keep your head up".

At the age of 20, you need to work as much as possible, I'm sure. Actually, I'm not sure, I could be wrong. I'm poor and from a poor family so I know that I need to work as much as possible. If you can't quit, just try making sure that NO MATTER WHAT you are getting atleast 6 hours of sleep a day.

With the girl? I'd tell you to tell her and let what happens happen, but some people are scared if "what happens" seems to be something negative. If you think you can keep your chin up and roll with the punches, I suggest that you talk to her about your feelings. Don't tell her you love her, don't tell her you want to marry her.. it's as simple as finding the right time when you're hanging out and having fun, and finding the least awkward moment to say "Hey, you know.. have you ever thought about.. us?" and go from there. If you have a hard time dealing with the possibility of rejection, it's going to be very hard no matter what choice you make. If you can handle the friendship, keep with the friendship. If you'll think you'll regret never asking, you better ask her what she thinks and get a move on because sometimes you only get one chance.

You're letting it all get to you, you wanker. Knock it off.

But seriously, I hear ya. Keep your head up the best you can.

[Kay B]

Yes, though other have it worse hence the reason i don't bug many people with my problems, plus i dont know whether im simply built it all up and it's all boiled over at the same time

[LaLiLuLeLo]

As far as girls go, if you can't work up the nerve to just tell her about your feelings, or really believe it won't end well, just knock that skank of the pedestal you put her on and find somebody else. Get it out your head that she's special (however special she is, just humor me) and move on to someone else. Just stop caring so much and romanticizing the 'idea' of her. Always worked for me.

If you've got a problem with your folks playing favorites you should just straight up say something. Because petty or not, it still effects you and yeah, little things add up. Don't start moaning and wailing about it, just be an adult about it and tell the assertively how you feel.

Most of this shit (job too) comes down to speaking your mind and standing up for yourself. Get your weight up and make moves. The people that mind won't matter and the people that matter won't mind. Cheers.

[Kay B]

I see your points both of you and agree with many of them...thanks